Not A Fairytale

(Oh yeah, I think it should be said that I did not write this in a pessimistic tone of voice at all. I'm quite happy with my life right now. I'm just trying to bring up a point that I've not only observed several times over, but felt it in my own life.) Please read this in a playful yet trying to get a point across tone. It will serve you well if you do so.

Love.


I repeat love..is not a fairytale. I would also like to take this opportunity to let you know that if love were a fairytale....our lives would be perfect and we therefore would be living a wasteful life.

Hey! You're crazy Alix. That's what we want our lives to be like.


I fail to see how two imperfect people make a perfect relationship. I doubt the point of relationships is to be perfect in and of itself. Otherwise we wouldn't have to communicate...at all...way way less than already goes on in lots of relationships. (Not saying everyone's is like that.) We don't have the ability to mind read, and we certainly don't have the strength or agility to slay a dragon to reach the tallest tower to save a damsel in distress. But we do have the ability to open our mouths and say "Hey, I love you, but this really upset me."

The thing is, we want a fairytale. We want everything to be sunshine, magic, and perfect ALL THE TIME! That's what we've come to expect. And as much as I love Disney, they aren't a big help on separating what love actually is and the fairytale. We expect sparks on a first kiss, and if we don't feel them..we start to think something is wrong. NO! I'm sorry...you are perfectly fine. Don't stress out about it. A kiss should have more meaning than the feeling it gives you in your body. If it doesn't, you shouldn't be doing such a thing....like ever...because that is lust...and is sooooo the opposite of what you want.

The expectation: Love like it's shown on the big screen...minus the rated R scenes. That is another topic all by itself.
The reality: Two people who have entered a partnership together to learn more about each other, in hopes of seeing where it goes, while simultaneously learning communication that is equally beneficial for both parties of the relationship that bonds a couple together when used in a way that is respectful.

Really though, do you see a difference when you think about love you see on the movies versus what goes on in your own personal love relationships? Because I sure as heck do.

In a perfect world, sure there could most possibly be fairytales. But a perfect world, takes perfect people...and we, the people of Earth, are anything but that, no matter how awesome or highly we think of ourselves.

Another fairytalisitc quality we find in relationships is the "you complete me" complex. This should not only be ignored, but avoided. Of course your special someone's happiness should be essential to your happiness...but they should in no ways..."complete you." They shouldn't be the one that makes your happiness. You should already be happy, and they should be an awesome double prize. Like that scene in Toy Story when Sid uses the claw and picks Buzz and gets Woody as well...only..relate that to what I am talking about. ;)


We want unicorns and rainbows, and all that glittery stuff in fairytales....but what we fail to realize is it has NOTHING to do with love.

Look up love in your bible dictionary and topical guide....go on....I dare you.

There is one instance in which fairytales and real life match up. Yay! A glimmer of hope for the hopeless fairytale romance I am still clinging onto.


It's overcoming adversity and trials.

By the way, the big bolded underlined text I have throughout this post is not me. It's those of you who are thinking such a thing.

Overcoming adversity and trials gives you strength...and doing it together as a couple does bring about happiness and a stronger foundation...especially if it's done in a humble and respectful manner.

I'll end this post by saying that anything I ever heard or read about love from one of the prophets or twelve apostles is spot on. And yes, I've read many. Spent many hours over several years doing so.

However, and this is not to discount anything I have previously said.... I agree with every word Uchtdorf says in this video. :) And...it doesn't discount anything I've said...it adds to it. :)