Tuesday, June 26, 2012
WOW!
Please, I invite all of you to watch these short videos. There are only 3. They are helpful to each and everyone of us. Open your hearts and feel the Spirit of the Lord.
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Not A Fairytale
(Oh yeah, I think it should be said that I did not write this in a pessimistic tone of voice at all. I'm quite happy with my life right now. I'm just trying to bring up a point that I've not only observed several times over, but felt it in my own life.) Please read this in a playful yet trying to get a point across tone. It will serve you well if you do so.
Love.
I repeat love..is not a fairytale. I would also like to take this opportunity to let you know that if love were a fairytale....our lives would be perfect and we therefore would be living a wasteful life.
Hey! You're crazy Alix. That's what we want our lives to be like.
I fail to see how two imperfect people make a perfect relationship. I doubt the point of relationships is to be perfect in and of itself. Otherwise we wouldn't have to communicate...at all...way way less than already goes on in lots of relationships. (Not saying everyone's is like that.) We don't have the ability to mind read, and we certainly don't have the strength or agility to slay a dragon to reach the tallest tower to save a damsel in distress. But we do have the ability to open our mouths and say "Hey, I love you, but this really upset me."
The thing is, we want a fairytale. We want everything to be sunshine, magic, and perfect ALL THE TIME! That's what we've come to expect. And as much as I love Disney, they aren't a big help on separating what love actually is and the fairytale. We expect sparks on a first kiss, and if we don't feel them..we start to think something is wrong. NO! I'm sorry...you are perfectly fine. Don't stress out about it. A kiss should have more meaning than the feeling it gives you in your body. If it doesn't, you shouldn't be doing such a thing....like ever...because that is lust...and is sooooo the opposite of what you want.
The expectation: Love like it's shown on the big screen...minus the rated R scenes. That is another topic all by itself.
The reality: Two people who have entered a partnership together to learn more about each other, in hopes of seeing where it goes, while simultaneously learning communication that is equally beneficial for both parties of the relationship that bonds a couple together when used in a way that is respectful.
Really though, do you see a difference when you think about love you see on the movies versus what goes on in your own personal love relationships? Because I sure as heck do.
In a perfect world, sure there could most possibly be fairytales. But a perfect world, takes perfect people...and we, the people of Earth, are anything but that, no matter how awesome or highly we think of ourselves.
Another fairytalisitc quality we find in relationships is the "you complete me" complex. This should not only be ignored, but avoided. Of course your special someone's happiness should be essential to your happiness...but they should in no ways..."complete you." They shouldn't be the one that makes your happiness. You should already be happy, and they should be an awesome double prize. Like that scene in Toy Story when Sid uses the claw and picks Buzz and gets Woody as well...only..relate that to what I am talking about. ;)
We want unicorns and rainbows, and all that glittery stuff in fairytales....but what we fail to realize is it has NOTHING to do with love.
Look up love in your bible dictionary and topical guide....go on....I dare you.
There is one instance in which fairytales and real life match up. Yay! A glimmer of hope for the hopeless fairytale romance I am still clinging onto.
It's overcoming adversity and trials.
By the way, the big bolded underlined text I have throughout this post is not me. It's those of you who are thinking such a thing.
Overcoming adversity and trials gives you strength...and doing it together as a couple does bring about happiness and a stronger foundation...especially if it's done in a humble and respectful manner.
I'll end this post by saying that anything I ever heard or read about love from one of the prophets or twelve apostles is spot on. And yes, I've read many. Spent many hours over several years doing so.
However, and this is not to discount anything I have previously said.... I agree with every word Uchtdorf says in this video. :) And...it doesn't discount anything I've said...it adds to it. :)
Love.
I repeat love..is not a fairytale. I would also like to take this opportunity to let you know that if love were a fairytale....our lives would be perfect and we therefore would be living a wasteful life.
Hey! You're crazy Alix. That's what we want our lives to be like.
I fail to see how two imperfect people make a perfect relationship. I doubt the point of relationships is to be perfect in and of itself. Otherwise we wouldn't have to communicate...at all...way way less than already goes on in lots of relationships. (Not saying everyone's is like that.) We don't have the ability to mind read, and we certainly don't have the strength or agility to slay a dragon to reach the tallest tower to save a damsel in distress. But we do have the ability to open our mouths and say "Hey, I love you, but this really upset me."
The thing is, we want a fairytale. We want everything to be sunshine, magic, and perfect ALL THE TIME! That's what we've come to expect. And as much as I love Disney, they aren't a big help on separating what love actually is and the fairytale. We expect sparks on a first kiss, and if we don't feel them..we start to think something is wrong. NO! I'm sorry...you are perfectly fine. Don't stress out about it. A kiss should have more meaning than the feeling it gives you in your body. If it doesn't, you shouldn't be doing such a thing....like ever...because that is lust...and is sooooo the opposite of what you want.
The expectation: Love like it's shown on the big screen...minus the rated R scenes. That is another topic all by itself.
The reality: Two people who have entered a partnership together to learn more about each other, in hopes of seeing where it goes, while simultaneously learning communication that is equally beneficial for both parties of the relationship that bonds a couple together when used in a way that is respectful.
Really though, do you see a difference when you think about love you see on the movies versus what goes on in your own personal love relationships? Because I sure as heck do.
In a perfect world, sure there could most possibly be fairytales. But a perfect world, takes perfect people...and we, the people of Earth, are anything but that, no matter how awesome or highly we think of ourselves.
Another fairytalisitc quality we find in relationships is the "you complete me" complex. This should not only be ignored, but avoided. Of course your special someone's happiness should be essential to your happiness...but they should in no ways..."complete you." They shouldn't be the one that makes your happiness. You should already be happy, and they should be an awesome double prize. Like that scene in Toy Story when Sid uses the claw and picks Buzz and gets Woody as well...only..relate that to what I am talking about. ;)
We want unicorns and rainbows, and all that glittery stuff in fairytales....but what we fail to realize is it has NOTHING to do with love.
Look up love in your bible dictionary and topical guide....go on....I dare you.
There is one instance in which fairytales and real life match up. Yay! A glimmer of hope for the hopeless fairytale romance I am still clinging onto.
It's overcoming adversity and trials.
By the way, the big bolded underlined text I have throughout this post is not me. It's those of you who are thinking such a thing.
Overcoming adversity and trials gives you strength...and doing it together as a couple does bring about happiness and a stronger foundation...especially if it's done in a humble and respectful manner.
I'll end this post by saying that anything I ever heard or read about love from one of the prophets or twelve apostles is spot on. And yes, I've read many. Spent many hours over several years doing so.
However, and this is not to discount anything I have previously said.... I agree with every word Uchtdorf says in this video. :) And...it doesn't discount anything I've said...it adds to it. :)
Thursday, June 7, 2012
Morning of Light
Occasionally I will feel prompted to watch Mormon Messages videos on Youtube. Usually without even realizing it hours go by. The same has happened today.
Getting lost in pondering thoughts is something I also love spending my time doing. Not only does it help me think of solutions to questions or problems I have, but it also allows me time to reflect on the blessings and tender mercies that have come about in my life.
Count your many blessings! When you take a step back to think about all the blessings you can't help but feel gratitude, even if you only reflect for a small moment. You recognize that things do happen for a reason.
Something I have learned recently is that faith is an action word. When you trust in the Lord, you put your faith in Him. It certainly takes more than just saying it. You have to actively keep that faith in Him. Let me tell you, it is certainly not easy, but it is attainable.
Satan and I are in a constant battle. Sometimes he wins (which I do admit, I am an imperfect person), and sometimes I smack him down so hard! ;) He is always trying to tell me that I'm not good enough. It really bugs the crap out of me. Somedays I take it more to heart than I ever should. He wants me to think that the light in my life is something I shouldn't have. When I have the light, he is trying to take it away from me. And it can be very draining sometimes to try and and keep it. But it really is worth it to keep the light of Christ in my life.
I love this wonderful gospel and all it does for my life.
I remember when I learned the true meaning of the atonement. Believe it or not, it was actually around this time last year that I knew for myself.
When I knew for myself, I knew that atonement wasn't just to cleanse sin. I knew that it would take away heartache, doubt, worry, and other negative things. I knew that because of the atonement, I have the ability to be happy and move forward. :)
I love when I have spiritual moments. They make me happy. :)
Getting lost in pondering thoughts is something I also love spending my time doing. Not only does it help me think of solutions to questions or problems I have, but it also allows me time to reflect on the blessings and tender mercies that have come about in my life.
Count your many blessings! When you take a step back to think about all the blessings you can't help but feel gratitude, even if you only reflect for a small moment. You recognize that things do happen for a reason.
Something I have learned recently is that faith is an action word. When you trust in the Lord, you put your faith in Him. It certainly takes more than just saying it. You have to actively keep that faith in Him. Let me tell you, it is certainly not easy, but it is attainable.
Satan and I are in a constant battle. Sometimes he wins (which I do admit, I am an imperfect person), and sometimes I smack him down so hard! ;) He is always trying to tell me that I'm not good enough. It really bugs the crap out of me. Somedays I take it more to heart than I ever should. He wants me to think that the light in my life is something I shouldn't have. When I have the light, he is trying to take it away from me. And it can be very draining sometimes to try and and keep it. But it really is worth it to keep the light of Christ in my life.
I love this wonderful gospel and all it does for my life.
I remember when I learned the true meaning of the atonement. Believe it or not, it was actually around this time last year that I knew for myself.
When I knew for myself, I knew that atonement wasn't just to cleanse sin. I knew that it would take away heartache, doubt, worry, and other negative things. I knew that because of the atonement, I have the ability to be happy and move forward. :)
I love when I have spiritual moments. They make me happy. :)
Sunday, June 3, 2012
#4 + Skate and Lake, and Nigel Thornberry
About 2 weeks ago, I got another suggestion. This would be the fourth one I have received. I'm going to be really short with the answer, because I haven't been in the blogging mood lately.
I want to work for LDS Family Services. That means I will get to counsel with the teachings of the gospel. Did you want a more elaborated answer? I'm sorry...haha I just haven't been in the blogging mood.
Here's a random video to leave you off with...
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