FINALLY! A TOPIC!

Many moons ago, I wrote a blog post asking for reader suggestions. You can actually view that post here. For the sake of preventing rambling, here is a screenshot of what this reader desires to hear from me.

(click on it to make it easier to read)

My dear anonymous reader,

I would like to take this moment to inform you that you telling me straight up that you are a girl, only simply makes me infer that you are indeed, a guy. Unless you can tell me who you are, I will think you are a guy. I kind of just get this feeling that a girl wouldn't ask me to write this kind of topic. But who can be too sure right? So for the sake of staying politically correct, I will respect your choice of remaining anonymous and must go along with the fact that you are a girl. No matter how much I want to assume you are a guy. You want me to write about the perfect guy. Okay...I just have one thing to say to you....have fun reading...because heaven only knows what might spew from my fingertips. ;)

THE PERFECT GUY FOR ME:

I love you anonymous reader, but this topic literally makes me want to puke. Okay, maybe only figuratively. 

I don't want a perfect guy. For, I am not a perfect girl. However, there are qualities and traits the right guy for me will have.

To play off your comment though, yeah I would for sure love to learn how to swing dance..that's actually one of the reasons why I love Jazz music so much. I just have this silly little dream inside my head everytime I listen to jazz music that a handsome man whom I adore teaches me swing dancing. Silly right? Perhaps, but I dream to swing. :)

As for a list of what qualties and traits I seek out in a man, keep reading. :)

1. Someone who takes care of himself in all aspects. This tells a lot about a man and the ability he will have to provide for a family one day.

2. Someone who will respect the moral boundaries I have set for myself. I don't make out or do any other arousing activity. It's dangerous and I'm not putting myself in that situation. I will kiss. Just not passionately. Yeah, I know...that makes me seem like a stick in the mud who doesn't know how to have fun.

3. I want a guy who listens to his brain over his heart. Hearts are easily decieved. When the heart and brain match up, it's a beautiful thing and can be very rare, and should be treated special. It's not too often the heart and brain get along.

4. Someone who can take me to the temple. Active in church. This is a really big one for me. Probably the biggest one of all. You see, for years my family has been inactive (me included). I've only barely been going back and it's been the best desicion I have ever made. My happiness and well being have greatly increased over the past 5 months. My family is still semi-inactive and it saddens me deeply. I want them to come back...so much. None of this is to say I wouldn't date someone who is/was inactive. As long as they are trying to go back, that would be great. I would even help them. I have no place to judge on someone's inactivity, when I was for years. An effort goes along way. This gospel amazes me every single day and I want to be with someone who thinks the same. :)

5. I want someone who sees long term with me. Not just a temporary girl. I'm not into flings. I'm into relationships. On a side note, relationships are only as meaningful as the couple works to make it. Relationships take lots of work, and I want to be with someone who is willing to make that effort with me. Enough of the 50/50 crap. Each partner has to put in 100%.

6. Someone who is just as comfortable being active with me as they are being lazy with me. I want someone who is fine with a day of hiking one day, to a movie marathon the next. 

7. If you can cook, it's a plus. But it's not one of the top priorities. It's actually probably very last on the list.

8. A gentleman. Yeah, this is one of those ones that I consider very important. Being a gentleman isn't just being one around me, it's being one ALWAYS. Especially when I am not in your prescence. 

9. Someone who can play with me! I'm a playful person...very. Not only is it fun, but it's also one of my coping methods. 

10. Someone who will love me in the moments of weakness I will have. The weakness will vary, but if I have a strong support behind me holding me and loving me, that weakness can become a strength.

11. Handsome.....duh!

12. Willing to work as a team...always! (One of those important ones)

13. Someone who will wait for the right moment to say "I love you"

14. Someone who loves the person he is! This one is also important. You can't love another until you learn to love yourself. One the same note, you can't learn to fully love yourself until you recognize you are a child of God, and live according to that. Let me just say, it's done amazing things to my life.

15. Respect me. Hold me. Adore me. Cherish me. Love me. If you do all that, those things will be returned to you by me. :)

16. Someone who can accept my opinions. Relationships are about being able to see both sides.

17. Someone who can support the desires I have. Again, you do this, and I will do the same for you. It just sort of works that way simultaneously.

18. A man who knows what he wants in life.

19. Someone who enjoys Disneyland, or someone who willing to learn to enjoy it.

20. Someone who can be my best friend. What a privledge it would be to love and be loved by your best friend. 

21. Someone who isn't afraid to tell me they are falling in love with me. Chances are, if you are feeling that way, so am I.

So, my ever so wonderful anonymous reader, how was that? I hope you are satisfied.

One thing I understand about love:

Rarely does love ever feel like a fairytale. Fairytales are fantasy. When we wish fairytales for ourselves, we often don't realize that what we have is better than a fantasy, because it's real. 

Don't get me wrong, that's not the only thing I understand about love. I am going to school to become a marriage counselor after all.

Have a nice night. :)